A woman traditionally derives pleasure in nurturing, attention to relationships, looking forward to love even before she’s grasped the full context of marriage, especially dutiful towards her parents, and a strong-willed guardian angel in the lives of her man , children and loved ones, still sparing some time for the finer things of life as beauty, comfort and even luxury. Also more profuse with her emotions.
A man on the other hand is the gender perceived traditionally to derive pleasure in cultivating, working, earning and taking charge, it is essentially a life of responsibilities and men don’t get all the credit they deserve, but that’s topic for another day. To achieve his many tasks, the man is equipped by nature with better physical strength, analytical thinking for problem-solving and a notorious thriving ego to help him establish authority and lead his family.
Obviously women need men and men need women. While a man is doing all of the seeming monotonous duties, there’s a quite interesting side to him. The side that longs for the delicate beauty of the woman, but successfully courting the attention of the woman is not nearly as much a big deal as keeping her interested and devoted. Almost all men require the exclusive devotion of the woman of their interest.
Now the cliché thing that goes round is that women are impossible and a book attempting to decipher women, voluminous as even an encyclopedia is only the beginning of a part of a series of similar texts in a futile cycle. But the truth is you can keep a good woman content with a few gems and there’s no argument that there are men who possess these traits and are the better for it, after all, there’s no amount of success at work that can compensate for failure at home, and a real man gets it.
1. ASSURANCE
A woman will be preoccupied with understanding whether your intentions towards her are genuine, whether you really consider her as an important part of your life and you aren’t "settling" for her. Assurance will come in realising that there’s no pressure from you for her to make drastic changes to fit in, or in order for her to measure up to the point where she qualifies for your unconditional love.
Sharing your dreams and struggles with her is considered love by a woman, she feels honored that you’d open up to her and have real conversations that matter with her.
2. UNDERSTANDING
A woman is quite lavish with her emotions, using many words to express hurt or excitement, typically a man does not care for excessive adjectives, and your woman gets it, just sometimes she can’t help it. Being wired as such is not her making and it takes a real man to listen, and acknowledge the feelings of his lady and using his calmer demeanor to show her the brittleness of her worries or take them away altogether. She’ll secretly marvel at your strength and goodness and will be indebted to you, wanting to possibly remove all pain from you, and then again in typical fashion become quite protective of you.
3. CARE
I don’t know of any serious minded man who wants to keep a woman without showing care. A woman is an emotional being and that’s established, that’s not to say she’s ruled by the emotions, even though there’s a chance that can happen. One thing is clear; she’s very connected to the emotional side of life. So if you are going to enjoy the love and company of the woman, you can’t afford to be aloof to how she’s feeling or what she’s telling you.
Hanging around a woman who’s devoted to you while you’re emotionally unavailable is setting her up for the destruction that come with one-sided expectations, eventually you’ll bring out the worst in her, and that’s not good for anyone.
If you have been touted to not be caring, you should look to getting help in form of counseling because hearing it from a third-party sometimes removes the fear that your partner is trying to control you. Whatever the case is, I don’t see how a man may excel with a woman without showing care. Essentially, care is all a woman wants.
Whether it is financial, material or physical, she’ll be content knowing that you will care for her in the capacity that you are able. She needs to know that she’s never an after-thought to you.
4. STRENGTH MENTAL AND PHYSICAL
This is one funny thing. Women are sometimes chided for preferring bad guys and friend-zoning the meek, obviously head-over-heels in love types. While the love of the latter is often acknowledged and respected, it may not be taken. And even though the affinity for the bad guys usually comes at the cost of abuse and disappointments, some women can’t help but fall for them. The simple reason is that women don’t like weaklings!
And that’s a compliment honestly, because it is generally thought that women want to control the men in their lives. It is ironical because what women really want is a man who can be in charge, someone who can lead her and if you’re going to get emotional like her, and leave her without any adventures to look forward to; she won’t think the world of you! Let’s just say women want the best of both worlds, a gutsy guy that keeps chivalry alive. A very "good-bad" guy essentially. LOL. Now you know!
5. DRIVE
Few things can transform you to sexy in a woman’s eye like a burning drive to excel. It doesn’t matter if you aren’t there yet, but a motivated hardworking man earns the admiration of women.
That gives her some sense of security as to the things you are occupied with, you have communicated by that trait that you’re responsible, live deliberately and are probably too busy to be preoccupied with extra affairs in a world that’s rife with women who live for instagram-edits.
6. PROTECTION
Financial and literal stability are things that women hold dear. In a way, it is a sign of protection from you. I’ll come home now, dating a girl for seven years or more until you are able to find your feet, is sheer time-wasting. Except of course, you both are content with that type of arrangement.
A woman expects you as her partner to be stable and protect her, with wisdom whether it is your family, hers, your friends or a stranger who’s trying to put her down, and protect her from physical harm if need be. To keep her private matters in confidence, otherwise she’ll loathe you for it.
Financially, you don’t have to be stinking rich, even though that’s part of the spec for some women, but the real deal is that you have to have potential and the right woman will love you for who you are, but you’ll need to let her see that you have the attitude to become successful and not expose the relationship/marriage to uncertainties.
7. GROOMING
Okay. It’s not only men that care about physical appeal, many women do so, absolutely too. So trim your nails and do all other needful. So if your woman is going to find you irresistible and cute, you probably want to pay attention to your oral and body hygiene. Love is not enough reason to kiss chapped lips, when you are hale and hearty but just can’t be bothered. LOL.
I wish you the love of a real woman; yielding plenty fruits, devoted and resilient and I wish you the power to accept the happiness of such love by having the noble stance to be a real man.
With Love,
From Kaffy ❤.